Dear Anonymous of June 24th, If, after 16 mos, your W cannot say he loves you, yet comntinues to reap the benefits of a relationship, I believe he is afraid of commitment. I am glad I found these posts and interested to hearing all of your thoughts and feelings. Ignoring them just fuels their fire and validates their negative feelings about you. You must set your own timeline, or when building a relationship with a widow or widower, giving them space to become comfortable. I am not a robot. HONOR his late wife by allowing his children their feelings. Yes it does appear that this man loved his first wife dearly, and maybe he clings a bit too much to her memory.
I still do sometimes.
Dating Widow(er)s: In Their Own Words
Would be bill willing to stand up for you? Accomplishing this is not easy,but basically, what she needs to do is to go on with he life as if W was not in it. Yes it does appear that this man loved his first wife dearly, and maybe he clings a bit too much to her memory. He feels guilty about thinking of starting over with someone else and then he feels even more guilty about how his son and his family and his deceased wife's family will feel. It is going to be very hard for him to grieve and be with you fully at the same time. His wife had died suddenly 5 yrs ago. Also by author Julie Donner Andersen: